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“Blackmotheritis,” and The Case of Trayvon Martin

Emmett Till

Emmett Till was killed for supposedly flirting with a white woman while on vacation with his family in the south.

This blog is about race, color, terror and crime but not in the way you think.

First the salacious:

By now everyone knows about the case of Trayvon Martin. Well, they know that there is no criminal case concerning the death of Trayvon Martin and that has everyone outraged.

About four weeks ago, I read about Travyon Martin not in the media but because I belong to a group called It’s an online petition nonprofit that allows individual citizens to galvanize support for their pet causes. Sometimes the causes are incredibly selfish – like trying to get off the day before Thanksgiving if you work as a retailer at Target – but most of them are cases that spark outrage such as the mother who was arrested and jailed for trying to get her child into a better neighborhood school.

And it was through a petition that I heard about Travyon Martin. Now the killing of a black, unarmed teen-ager by a armed vigilante with a history of violence should have been front page news. And me being a news junkie should have heard about it through the news media. But I didn’t. I heard about it through an online social network where people who feel they can’t be heard in the press take their cause straight to the people.

Since Travyon’s mother Sybrina Fulton and his father Tracy Martin started their petition, “Prosecutor the Killer of Our Son…” in February more than 500,000 people have signed that petition. Losing your child is a parent’s worst nightmare. But Tracy and Sybrina had an extra burden that many well-meaning but clueless people have no idea about.

It is a burden that every parent with a black teen-age son has had to add to the long list of anxieties they have about the safety of their children. It is a unique burden that if you’re not black or minority or live under the threat from the people who are sworn to protect you, well, you know nothing about it.

So please, don’t try to say you understand.

Columnist Deborah Mathis called this anxiety condition “Blackmotheritis,” in her 1997 piece on her son’s ascension to puberty. Conservative columnist John McWhorter revived the term in his 2012 piece on Trayvon.

The fear is common among minority mothers, especially African-American mothers. Millions share the same symptoms and the unfortunate reality that, as of yet, there is no cure.

Simply put “Blackmotheritis,” is the prevailing fear that makes black mothers break out into panic when their teen-age sons miss their curfews by minutes, decide to go to the mall, walk out their front doors. While white mothers blithely yell for their sons not to be too late for supper as they go out the house, the black mother watches her son’s fast footsteps with a thin smile on her face, steadying her waving hand, praying, pleading, asking the universe for her son to come home in tact without a bullet in his back.

Blackmotheritis stems from the fear that being black could one day mean you end up arrested, jailed, assaulted or murdered not from any fault of your own, but because of the crime pathology theory that dates all the way back to Thomas Jefferson.

This pathology, perpetuated by the media, law enforcement, public school systems, racists, and yes, the behavior of a few, and the mindset of millions, that allows people to see an alternative reality when they see black males. It is this pathology that allowed Trayvon’s killer to see the unarmed teen as a threat, even when he only had a bag of Skittles and a bottle of iced tea in his hand.

No matter where the mother lives – be it Beverly Hills, south side of Chicago, million-dollar mansions or run down shacks, the black mother has the same fear for her black teen-age son. She fears someone will look at him and see something he is not – suspicious, a criminal, up to no good.

In the past,mothers only worried about law enforcement officers or armed gang members profiling their son, but as the Trayvon case tells us apparently  black teen-agers can be gunned down on general principle these days, by any armed man fed up with black teens walking around free.

Like all incurable diseases “Blackmotheritis,” is caused by a mixture of abjection of personal responsibility, external uncontrollable factors and nature mysteries. Blacks are disproportionally jailed for crimes. This leads many – including media, law enforcement, judges, and even criminal themselves – to make the incorrect leap that blacks have a propensity for criminal activities.

Any social researcher will tell that’s false assumptions. But hey, how often do the American people pay attention to academic research? This false truth of the criminal black pathology – reinforced by the media, Hollywood, pundits, politicos, and racist philosophies – allows citizens to justify their harsh and cruel treatment of blacks.

And it is this prevailing criminal black pathology theory that has mothers of black sons tossing and turning at night.

I was once a facilitator of Community Conversations on Race. It was a civic experiment where people with differing views came together to discuss, debate and hopefully heal over food, laughter and a no-judgement atmosphere.

My group consisted of a conservative businessman, a mixed-race couple, a hippie restaurant owner, myself and a teacher. One day, the subject of racial profiling came up. The woman, from the mixed raced couple explained how her twin sons had just gotten their driver’s licenses and the first lesson she taught them was how to drive around law enforcement.

“I explained to them not to talk back to the police. How they should always have their hands in view, how they shouldn’t reach inside their pockets or make any sudden movements.”

The woman was Persian but she knew that if they police stopped her son they would be seen as black.

I remember trying to hold in my anger when a very liberal member of the group tried to chastise the mother, saying she was teaching her sons racism. The women went on accusing the mother of “reinforcing stereotypes,” and basically teaching her sons to be close-minded. As a facilitator it was my job to keep quiet but I just couldn’t let this one go.

“Until you know what it feels like to have the possibility that one of your children will not come home one night for no other reason than that they are black,” I gently said, “I would caution against judging a woman who lives with that reality.”

That shut her up and rightly so.

Many of my well-meaning white friends try to explain to me how they are color-blind and that they don’t see color. They question when I talk about the racial overtones of everyday news items and think, perhaps, I’m way too sensitive about race.

But the Trayvon case illustrates why race does matter in America, even if we pretend that it does not. You can hear it in the Sanford’s dispatcher’s questions to Trayvon’s shooter. The first thing he asks about is race. You can hear it in George Zimmerman’s responses. He doesn’t describe Trayvon’s height, weight, stature only his ethnicity then later his “hoodie.” And though people will try to tip toe around it.. when Zimmerman says “Those a**holes always get away with it…” we know he doesn’t mean those kids from the Jersey Shore.

Race is all over this case and you don’t need race pimps like Jesse or Al to see it. It seems so out of place in a nation with a black president, that a black teen-ager can be spotted, followed, assaulted and then killed and no one goes to jail. But sadly it’s not surprising.

Still, when Zimmerman’s father says tearfully his son isn’t a racist, that he has “black friends,” I do believe him. I believe that he doesn’t THINK he’s racist but in the end, like so many of us, he has fallen prey to the disease that says see a black male think “up to no good.” It is an insidious belief that has permeated our society and it’s going to take more than blacks and whites standing on the National Mall singing “We Shall Overcome,” to get rid of it.

Each time a mug shot is published that shows a black teen it convicts all black teens – nevermind that mug shots are taken when you are arrested not when you are proven to be a criminal. Each news story that shows black males in prison, as criminals, on the wrong end of the law reinforces the pathology. Though I believe in law and order I also believe in fair and balanced and black teen-age males have gotten the short-end of the stick when it comes to image.

Sometimes their bad reputations are self-induced – read Chris Brown – other times they are forced upon them – as the case of the 14-year-old whose teacher told him to read a poem “blacker,” when he read using  perfect English in her class. As Paul Mooney says, images matter, and each time we see an image of a black teen-age boy in the wrong it cements in simple minds that all black teen-agers are that way.

This connection that people make between black teen-age males and danger is the assumption that gives black mothers everywhere anxiety-induced insomnia whenever their teen-age son is late for dinner.

We spend so much time focused on skin color that its absurd to think that it doesn’t shadow almost everything we are exposed to from the media to the justice system, race is front and center.

“I’m trying to protect him,” the Persian mother said in our circle. “I’m trying to make sure he comes home at night.”

I hear you sister. And I’m sure Trayvon’s mother would say the same.


More on Race Consciouness

So yesterday was guest post day for the 2010 Blogathon which I’m participating in. Thirty-one days of straight postings. I swapped posts with the awesome blogger Dylan over at discordianZen and Dylan graciously opined about race consciousness. Then Sue from I Breath Therefore I Write offered to write about her first experience with race consciousness. I loved it so much that I’m posting one of her experiences on my blog. What about you? When did you first become aware of race?

When I Discovered People Are Different
by Sue Poremba
I grew up in a small coal town in Pennsylvania. Drive a few miles
outside of town and you hit farm country — not quite an Amish area at
the time, but certainly plenty of folks with Pennsylvania Dutch
heritage. Once you scrubbed the coal dust and farm sod off our skin,
we were all white as snow. When I was a child, a “person of color”
was someone who got a nice tan in the summer.

When I was 7 or 8 years old, my family was on its annual vacation to
South Jersey to spend a week with relatives. On one of those days, we
went to a nearby park and playground. My siblings, cousins, and I
were the only ones on the playground for some time when a group of
African American children showed up. They asked if they could join in
our game. I said yes, not even thinking about it. But I recall my
cousins pulling me aside and saying we can’t play with them. My
brother and sister froze because I’m the oldest and they were going to
follow my lead. But my cousins insisted. We could not play with
these other kids, and the oldest cousin had us move to another part of
the playground. I thought it was because these other kids were
strangers and it wasn’t a good idea to play with strangers.

It was my very first encounter with someone who was a different color
than I. With 20-20 hindsight, it was the first time I realized that I
didn’t see the world the same way my family did. I remember
questioning extensively why we couldn’t play with those kids. It
never dawned on me it was because they were black — not until I was a
teenager and remembered the event on another visit and similar
avoidance tactics were taken by my cousins.

Dawn Doll

Regular Dawn Doll

Our town was poor, but there were some standards we lived by. One of
those was celebrating Christmas with gift exchanges. The one year I
was in Brownies, we had a gift exchange. And we had them in school,
as well. When I was in Brownies, a toy called a Dawn Doll was very
popular. She (and her friends) were miniature Barbie-like dolls and
what made them great was they were easier to carry around than
Barbies. Various Dawn Dolls were popular gifts for the Brownie
Christmas exchange. I got a regular Dawn doll. Another girl got the
black Dawn Doll friend. The room got very quiet. The girl who gave
the doll mumbled something about it being on sale and that’s why her
mom bought it. The girl who got it asked, loudly, if anyone wanted to
trade. Well, I thought, I already have Dawn and she’s boring —
another blonde, blue-eyed doll.
Black Dawn Doll

Black Dawn Doll

The black doll had dark hair and the
prettiest colored skin. I offered to trade. My aunt, one of the
Brownie leaders, tried to get me to change my mind, but I was
determined. I was pleased. My mother was none too happy about it
herself. I couldn’t understand the fuss. See, I’m a brunette who
grew up with a blonde sister and blonde cousins and the not-too-subtle
vibe that blonde is better than brown. Anything that wasn’t blonde
was good for me.

A couple of years later, I got several Flower Power dolls, bendable
hippie dolls, and again was a black doll, and again it was a gift from
someone who sheepishly admitted that it was a lot cheaper than the
other dolls. I didn’t care. To me, it was just another doll that
wasn’t blonde.

There was one other incident that stands out from my childhood. Our
neighbor’s son was in the military and stationed in Japan. While
there, he married a Japanese woman and they had three children, and
eventually they moved back to our neighborhood. We were allowed to
play with the kids, who were the ages of the kids on the block, but
none of us was allowed into their home — yet we could go into the
home of any other neighbor. Nor were they ever invited to our home,
not even to play outside. Everybody in the neighborhood behaved the
same way.

It wasn’t until I was in college, living in the dorm, and for the
first time meeting people of other races and cultures and backgrounds,
that I began to realize what had happened in those experiences of my
childhood. In our pure white community, people were uncomfortable
about anyone who looked different — even if it was a doll. Even
outside our community, the people in my life saw a world in black and
white and in their eyes, black wasn’t good. And for reasons I never
understood — still don’t understand — that attitude didn’t sit well
with me. Well, let me explain that. My upbringing should have made
me prejudiced, but it didn’t, at least not against people of different
colors. I was always kind of skeptical of blondes. 🙂 I think a
lot about what made me different from the people who shaped my life,
but I have no answer. The best I could do was raise my children to be
more open minded and I did that.

One final incident that shaped my views of race. As a freshman in
college, there was an Hispanic guy who had a serious crush on me. But
I couldn’t stand him. Again, I had paid no attention to his race. I
didn’t even realize he was Hispanic until someone told me because I
had never been around a Hispanic person until then. His personality
was awful. He was rude, overbearing, an ass. I didn’t like him as a
person. But he spread the rumor that I was racist. I was crushed
because I couldn’t understand why anyone would bring race into the way
I felt. Some people believed him and branded me. Most knew the guy
was a jerk. But it was the first time I saw how race and racism is a
two-way street.

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